As stated on an earlier page, Pattaya bar girls usually come from poor rural families with a sense of obligation to provide for their families. The girls travel to Pattaya after hearing stories of big money to be made. They also have heard about how girls come and meet a rich farang (foreigner) who will look after them and their family. Most come with the idea of marrying a nice man to release them from the obligations that are placed on them by their family.

Unfortunately for the girls, the reality of Pattaya is somewhat different. Perhaps they meet a man that they think is good. He promises her many grand things. He goes home with the promise of coming back to marry her, but she never hears from him again. Perhaps she hears and sees similar stories from the girls she works with.

The result is that many Pattaya bar girls quickly take the view that farang men are theirs to take as much money from as possible. This will suit guys who only go to Pattaya for a couple of weeks. They can go, have fun and not worry too much about attachments. However, this situation is full of traps for those unaware of the problem. Don’t be one of those guys!

There is no doubt that there are some good girls in Pattaya, but being a newbie, don’t go there looking for one. The sharks are waiting for you, and they are good at what they do. The section below is a bit of a warning about bar girls.

Bar Girl’s Goals

The previous sections show that a bar girl’s (BG) main aim is to make money. However, how this is done can be quite mischievous. Besides the money she earns from guys who pay bar for her, many will also try to find ‘sponsors.’ A sponsor is someone who sends her money regularly (usually) on the premise that she no longer works in a bar. While the sponsor is not around, she returns to her bar (or another one) and carries on as usual. Some Pattaya girls have more than one sponsor.

There are all sorts of scams that the girls pull on guys to extract money. Things like a sick buffalo or sick parents are common reasons. Some girls will be giving these sorts of stories to many men simultaneously. It’s a great way to make money, isn’t it!!???

You will need to learn to block out their sweet talk. Pattaya girls can be very good at making you feel special. They are good at their job, and this is to increase their earning capacity at your expense. This is not always the case, but on your first trip, it is a good policy to assume.

Go to Thailand as a butterfly (someone who changes partners often), and you’ll have a great time with the girls in Pattaya. A common rule is what is called the ‘3-day rule.’ The idea is to never take a lady for more than three days in a row. This stops you (and her) from becoming too attached. Some people have a two-day rule and some even a 3-hour rule, but up to you.

It will be in your best interests to treat the girls well. A little goes a long way. Treat the girls right, and most times, you will get more in return. Show some respect, and that will be returned too.

Due to the nature of the business in Pattaya, many of the stories you hear about the girls are negative. It is easy to think that all the bar girls are cold and calculating. This is not true as many good girls are working in the bars in Pattaya as this story demonstrates: Would I Marry a Bar Girl?